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I saw an article tonight written by a person whose parents got into a polyamory arrangement in the 70's. Before I go any further first let me say that while I totally disagree with that situation I don't really judge them as people because they are just human and made mistakes. However I have a few things to say.
First is I disagree with those who say that the only place they went wrong with the whole thing is by ending up divorcing. Sure there may have been pluses for the child having more people in his life and I can see how from his point of view the alternative may be a "smaller world". But if it was such an ideal situation wouldn't all his "parents" would have stayed together?
Sometimes situations can be less than ideal and still have pluses and minuses but that doesn't make it right. Just like being kidnapped.. sure the person may start identifying with the kidnappers and even make camaraderie and such but does it mean it's a good thing to kidnap people?
It seems to me that he was mostly thinking of himself and not how well it was working out for his parents. I don't think they where probably with the right person in the first place. I had this feeling even before I read that they ended up splitting up and marrying the opposite partner than they started off with. Then the one who ended up with his mom even divorced her and found someone new so even then she wasn't the right one for him.
Some people just say that whatever you do in private is OK. But a lot of those people just think with the immature crowd that thinks that "going wild" is OK and "yeah party!" and "be freaky!"... "screw anything that moves!" There tend to be a lot of those kind of people at sites like digg.
I think that some people just aren't cut out for marriage. Not everyone is the same and for some an arrangement like that may work out. However I think it's best if you where in a culture such as in Africa where it's the norm.. and not be just some people who decided one day that it would be cool to "wife swap" no matter the consequences. Like it or not things and people are different here than in Africa. There are lots of things other cultures do that aren't appropriate to do here or probably even healthy (female circumcision).
Let me conclude by saying that while I don't totally judge them and I don't hate them because they are after all human and make mistakes. I don't think being the human animal should be the standard excuse for any kind of behavior. Just because we are technically animals doesn't mean that we can't practice self mastery. I'd like to think that people can be friends without jumping in the sack with each other.. to hell with the consequences!
Also, that article may have been just viral marketing for the new show about 70's swingers but I still felt like it was something that I wanted to type up something about. I also don't get into anyone's faces or carry picket signs or anything. There are lots of things people do that I don't agree with but I don't give it any thought. However once in a while I do like to say something here because it just doesn't sit well with me.
First is I disagree with those who say that the only place they went wrong with the whole thing is by ending up divorcing. Sure there may have been pluses for the child having more people in his life and I can see how from his point of view the alternative may be a "smaller world". But if it was such an ideal situation wouldn't all his "parents" would have stayed together?
Sometimes situations can be less than ideal and still have pluses and minuses but that doesn't make it right. Just like being kidnapped.. sure the person may start identifying with the kidnappers and even make camaraderie and such but does it mean it's a good thing to kidnap people?
It seems to me that he was mostly thinking of himself and not how well it was working out for his parents. I don't think they where probably with the right person in the first place. I had this feeling even before I read that they ended up splitting up and marrying the opposite partner than they started off with. Then the one who ended up with his mom even divorced her and found someone new so even then she wasn't the right one for him.
Some people just say that whatever you do in private is OK. But a lot of those people just think with the immature crowd that thinks that "going wild" is OK and "yeah party!" and "be freaky!"... "screw anything that moves!" There tend to be a lot of those kind of people at sites like digg.
I think that some people just aren't cut out for marriage. Not everyone is the same and for some an arrangement like that may work out. However I think it's best if you where in a culture such as in Africa where it's the norm.. and not be just some people who decided one day that it would be cool to "wife swap" no matter the consequences. Like it or not things and people are different here than in Africa. There are lots of things other cultures do that aren't appropriate to do here or probably even healthy (female circumcision).
Let me conclude by saying that while I don't totally judge them and I don't hate them because they are after all human and make mistakes. I don't think being the human animal should be the standard excuse for any kind of behavior. Just because we are technically animals doesn't mean that we can't practice self mastery. I'd like to think that people can be friends without jumping in the sack with each other.. to hell with the consequences!
Also, that article may have been just viral marketing for the new show about 70's swingers but I still felt like it was something that I wanted to type up something about. I also don't get into anyone's faces or carry picket signs or anything. There are lots of things people do that I don't agree with but I don't give it any thought. However once in a while I do like to say something here because it just doesn't sit well with me.
